How to Stop Cyber Bullying 

Sure, you’re familiar with social media sites such as Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, etc., right?

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Our kids tend to spend a significant amount of time on these social media powerhouses. We’ve talked about cyberbullying in a previous blog post: What is Cyberbullying? And, now I’d like to dive deep and share some ways to stop it from happening in your area!

Social media sites are meant to be a fun way to keep in contact with your friends and family… However, cyberbullying has become more and more popular for kids to humiliate, embarrass and belittle others. If your child has experienced this type of bullying, or if you suspect it’s happening, you should take it very seriously.

We must act on this now! Let’s talk about some essential tips that will help stop cyberbullying in its tracks! 

 

Tip One: Discourage your child or student from responding – As tempting as it may be

Of course your child will want to defend themselves, maybe they’ll want to pop off something mean or embarrassing about the attacker to give themselves the upper hand. Remind them that all this is going to do is keep the cycle going.

Advise them to save all the messages and pictures used against them. Keep in mind that a bully wants to get you out of character, and responding only adds more fuel to the fire.

By not getting involved with the back and forth and trying to retaliate, they’re taking a good step forward to eliminating it from happening again. Remember to let them know that this DOES NOT mean that they’re a coward, or that the bully has won.

It simply means that they’re showing more maturity in the situation and that they’re being the bigger person. 

 

Tip Two: Try to identify the person or group who are doing the bullying and take notice if the actions or behavior breaks the law 

Using inappropriate language or photos violates the terms of social media sites, chat rooms and IM service agreements and the bully may be banned from using these services if they’re reported.

Sometimes they’ll steal passwords and accounts, which is called hacking, and is also illegal. However, it’s possible to block most attacks and threats made on cell phones and computers. Social media profiles and phone numbers can be blocked within the security settings of the account and your child or student will not continue to receive inappropriate or violent messages.

Bullies can go the extra mile and assume new names, but chances are they’ll lose interest if they are continually blocked.

 

Tip Three: If the bullying occurs at school, you should contact the school’s administrator 

This way, they can take action of their own to stop it ASAP. Sending unhealthy, or violent and threatening messages (over the phone in class for example) are considered some ways of bullying. It’s against school rules, and action will be taken if it occurs on school property.

Once your child or students actions are made off the property, there’s little the schools can do if the cyberbullying continues to happen.

Depending on the circumstances, you may be able to still take legal action and stop it from occurring.

 

Tip Four: Get the other parents involved 

How to stop cyber bullying shot of two people looking at their smartphones togetherSometimes the cyberbully will be anonymous, but if you know their identity, get their parents involved!

Now, I know this is easier said than done but try your best to explain the situation and circumstances in a non-confrontational manner. Chances are they may not even be aware that their child is involved in harmful behavior towards others online, so it’s a high probability they’ll be willing to help.

If you have proof of the instances, show them to the parents so they can see what’s going on. 

 

Tip Five: Get INVOLVED and do not assume this is a normal part of growing up – it’s NOT

Children aren’t often aware of the damage that can occur because of cyberbullying.

To them, at the time it’s just harmless fun and they’re not realizing the damage caused to the victim. The behavior will continue if the adults don’t step in to educate them on the harmful behavior and stop it. Even if children know the damage they can cause, chances are they’ll not stop until we act. 

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If cyberbullying is severe enough, it can be against the law. If it’s harassing, threatening, or contains unhealthy images, you should contact authorities.

The most significant part is to make sure you act as the adult when made aware of your child being bullied online. An even bigger piece of this puzzle is educating your child on how big of an issue it is and how it’s not a game. Sometimes the cases of cyberbullying can get out of hand and have serious consequences.

We do NOT want it to make it this far because the massive audience that it can attract is much worse than traditional bullying and can permanently damage a child emotionally. Our kids must know this!

Hopefully, you found this post informational, and it motivates you to stop cyberbullying. I’m here for you, and I look forward to hearing from you and getting the opportunity to come and speak on this topic of cyberbullying at your next event.

 

Lastly, I invite you to remember this: Tomorrow is yours to create, don’t limit yourself! 

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How to Prevent Bullying 

It’s a harsh reality that bullying continues to roam within our school systems.

 

Most kids don’t know how to prevent bullying or change the bully within themselves. This is a critical time in our children’s lives, and we as adults must step in to ensure that it doesn’t occur. In a previous post we discussed, “Why do Children Bully” and now, I’d like to share some ways to prevent bullying all together.

 

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We can name tons of different reasons why kids bully others, and bullying cases can vary from situation to situation. No matter how severe the bullying is or the circumstance, it’s never acceptable and should be handled quickly. If you truly think your child is at risk, let’s take action now and strive for a change. I personally believe that it’s easier to prevent the bullying from the start, than to stop it once it begins. 

The following tips I’m about to share below are some healthy tips on how to prevent the bullying before it starts. 

Tip 1: Encourage your child to socialize. 

Bullying often tends to happen in unsupervised areas. Share this with your children that could potentially be at high risk of bullying and remind them to avoid being alone in hallways, at recess, and in other areas of the school.  

Encourage your child to seek out quality friends that have their best interest in mind. Keep in your mind that bullies are more likely to target children that are alone… so encourage your child to socialize.

You can help your child be more sociable by allowing him/her to bring a friend over to the house for example. 

Tip 2: Be the bigger person. 

Advise your child to be the bigger person and just walk away from the situation. Showing the bully that you’re not phased by theiryawning lion on green grass during daytime comments or other attempts to get you in defensive mode is key. Ignoring and not putting energy towards the bullying is the best way to stop it.

Bullies like to pick on individuals who are not confident, assertive or present bad body language. 

Teaching our children to have confidence is an excellent way to prevent bullying. Children who are confident, assertive and maintain good body language when confronted by a bully are less likely to be picked on. This type of reaction will decrease the chances that your child will be targeted again.  

Children should not cry or get upset if they are bullied; instead, the best way to prevent bullying is for them to use an assertive voice and tell the bully to stop. Bullies like to get a rise out of the kids they pick on, so children that are calm and assertive are less likely to be a victim.

Tip 3: Involve your child in confidence boosting activities. 

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Get your child involved in extra-curricular activities that’ll help boost their confidence. Children who are a part of organized sports or groups can learn to build self-discipline and esteem. This will carry over into bullying situations.

Encourage any enjoyable activity that your child excels in and makes them happy. This will transition to more self-confidence and in turn that confidence will help prevent bullying. 

 

Tip 4: Talk to your child and let them know that it’s NOT their fault! 

Last tip, and this could be the most important one. Make sure your child knows that the bullying is not their fault! I know from experience that a child can feel something’s wrong with them and that the bullying is something they deserve.

This type of thinking is very damaging and is simply not acceptable. It’s important to inform your child if they are at risk of, or already being bullied that it’s truly not their fault.  

Many children are hesitant to turn to adults for help – so be willing to listen when the opportunity arises. I encourage you to listen first and allow your child to open up to sharing their experience and you be willing to share your own.

 

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I hope you found some benefit out of this post. Reach out to me if you have any questions about this subject or believe that I can assist and help your school or organization prevent bullying.

I would love the opportunity… Let’s remember, tomorrow is yours to create! 

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How To Get Your Teen To Communicate Better With Body Language 

“I don’t let my mouth say nothin’ my head can’t stand.”

Louis Armstrong 

Teenagers are testing the waters, so to speak, trying to figure out their way as they progress into adulthood.

Being a teen once myself, I know that transitioning towards being an adult is not smooth at all, and sometimes as adults we tend to forget that. It can be confusing, scary and often proceeds as a two steps forward, one step backward sort of dance.  

All of this sudden change can play a role in how our body functions and the way we present ourselves to the world.

How to get your teen to communicate better with body language chaz jackson speaks One of the critical things we can learn is our body language, because it plays a significant step in the direction you are individually viewed. Since the beginning of time, learning how to communicate better has had a lot to do with understanding body language. Author, Julius Fast wrote a book entitled, “Body Language” in the 70’s. He talked about a new science called, Kinesics.

Contributing to his studies, as well as other scholars, Body Language is ubiquitous and understood as an essential aspect of communication.  

In fact, experts suggest specific percentages, starting with only 7% of what a person is saying comes from their words, while 38% is based on the tone of their voice. The remaining 55% of the meaning comes from the body language the individual is presenting. This rule comes from research that was published in the late 1960’s. 

Obviously, it’s 2018, and some now think that the percentages from this research might be slightly different. Nevertheless, the bottom line is still the same. Again, if you don’t know the basics of body language, you are missing a valuable tool for learning how to communicate better.

 

 

I Believe it’s essential to mentor our youth on this subject and help develop them in the leaders they are capable of being.   

FACE – Your facial expression speaks 1000 words.

When you enter a room if you feel anxious, nervous, your appearance might make you look aloof or unfriendly. Smiling in the room is a sure-fire way to remove anyone’s doubts about your approachability. Laughing and smiling makes us look warm, open and confident around others. 

EYES – Have you ever heard, the eyes are the windows to the soul?

I think this is a true statement. Your eyes certainly give people clues about what we’re feeling. A direct gaze towards someone can show interest– direct staring on the other hand, can mean an intense dislike. Minimal eye contact can prove that you’re shy. 

HANDS – Have you ever paid attention to speaker’s hand movements when they’re talking?

Open hand movements tend to make a person appear open and honest. Bringing hands together for long periods of time can accent the point you’re making. Awkward hand movements or continuous movement of your fingers and hands will give away nervousness.  It can even make someone look dishonest- are they trying to hide something?  

POSTURE – Research shows, if you lean towards someone, you’re showing an interest in the group or individual conversation.

If we’re feeling low in confidence, self-esteem or self-worth, we tend to slouch our shoulders and look down when someone is talking. 

I personally feel these concepts will get your teens on the right path of having a leader approach towards life. It starts with being confident and learning confident body language. Let me know what you think about this post and your opinions on how important it is letting our teens know how important body language is.

Lastly, always remember tomorrow is yours to create, don’t limit yourself. 

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